“At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” -Maya Angelou
Our homes are a garden for our family. What we feed to it, will grow. ..Or may not.
What we say in a matter of seconds can uplift or destroy another human. Words and language are a very powerful thing to have. It shouldn’t be abused, especially by a highly influencial authority figure like parents, grandparents, caregivers, or teachers.
Remember, it’s a blessing to be able to speak.
That’s why it’s critical to speak love into your words. You can choose your vocabulary all you wish, but if your vocal tone & your body’s expression isn’t matching, it will leave your significant other or child thinking otherwise. Your words won’t have any meaning beyond what attitude you expressed them with.
What or how we speak will forever be with our children. Think back to when you were a child. Was there anything ever said that stuck with you to this day? How does is affect you now? They’re little people being molded & very impressionable. What you do today, could be their tomorrow.
I want nothing more than our home to be a place of peace. A refuge from the crazy world we live in for my husband. He works way too hard to come home to anything else but that. Choosing not to nag, picking our battles make all of the difference in the world. We are genuinely happy. We choose to make our interactions happy & fulfilling. My husband has never raised his voice at me nor has he ever been disrespectful. Not perfect, but happy.
Observing my great grandparents and grandparents, they were happy. Both couples were married for over 50 years each, so they must have done a few things right. ;) I’m still taking notes.
As a wife or mother, occasionally, we will feel the weight & pressure from daily life. Stress from fatigue, work, not drinking or eating, bills, school, projects, holidays, etc… You name it, it’s been around forever and likely won’t change for a while. :)
We all have our weak moments, and at some point, we yell, snap, and become generally crabby. We’re only human. As individuals, we are always evolving and trying to be a better person than what we were yesterday.
All we can do is our very best. Pray to Him for guidance, ask our loved ones for forgiveness, & most importantly, ask ourselves for forgiveness. There’s no use dwelling on it. Pick up the pieces and use it as learning tools.
Every second you live is another chance to change. It’s also another second that passes by. Another second our precious children grow older, another second less that we won’t have with our dear husbands.
Let’s make every moment count.
If you make a promise, please be the person of your word & make that change. Keep it. As they say, it all begins at home. It begins with us.
If it’s not kind, nurturing, or respectful to the other person, it’s better left in silence.